I absolutely LOVE my kids! They are everything to me. I feel so very lucky to have been chosen to be their mother and wouldn't want it any other way!
With that said, motherhood is HARD! I spent 8 years in the Army and my childhood wasn't all roses but NOTHING prepared me to be a mother. Of course the multiple wake ups at night and the sicknesses and childbirth are all things that pass and seem to become more of a vague memory at best...what I think is the hardest part is once they start to talk!
Just hang in there with me for a minute.
It's always such an awesome thing to hear your kid say their first words! You wait and wait to see what that first word will be and most mommies hope that it will be "mama" or something along those lines. Typically, for me at least, our kids said "dada" first. No big deal...I just carried you in my belly for 9 months, couldn't have my glass of wine on Friday nights, suffered through morning sickness, gained 60 pounds, and birthed you without the epidural taking effect....but go ahead and say "dada" first. He earned it LOL.
Never mind the fist word....what happens when they start with the full sentences and they turn 2?! It's like someone takes over your kids body and the sweet and loving child you had before disappears. Well not fully disappears....that sweet side resurfaces on occasions. The temper tantrums, the refusal to do anything and they tell you so, then teaching their younger and sweet sibling to say the word "NO" every time mommy says something.
That's what has happened in my household at least. Out of no where, well actually just this week, my 1 year old has decided to tell me "no" anytime I tell her to do something. I tell her to sit down and she says "no". I tell her to stop doing something and of course she says "no". She has only recently learned this from her 2 year old (almost 3) sister. I get terrible two's....well not really but at least it's an explanation....but I do not know nor enjoy why on earth my 1 year old has turned into a "no" machine?! It's literally driving me NUTS! I sit her in timeout for telling me "no" and she gets up, tries to run away from timeout while yelling "no". I sit her back down and we do this for about 20 minutes. My oldest likes to tell me "no" as well but since she is a bit older I have had a lot of discussions with her about why it's not nice to say that and why mommy asks her to help and so forth. I don't think it really gets through to her but only because she is one of the most stubborn kids I know....she's only second to her sister who has since taken the reigns on that one!
So let's say I get passed the "no" issue...everything is perfect right? Umm NO (oh look, my favorite word LOL)! My oldest throws some of the most extreme temper tantrums! I mean we have to leave where we are, take her right away to the car and put her in her seat as we stand outside and listen to her SCREAM at the top of her lungs. She can do this for a good hour at least. Typically after about 10 minutes we get in the car, insert ear plugs and drive home. I used to get all worked up about it but as crazy as it sounds...I am learning to ignore it! Well ignore it as much as you can when they are screaming LOL. What bothers me most is the fact that she typically chooses to throw these fits while we are out in public and here in Belgium we get starred at by EVERY person with a look of "how can you not control your kid?" Well if you are a mom then you know that "controlling" a two year old's temper is as easy as nailing jello to the wall! It's NOT going to happen and I am not going to try! I am going to get her to a neutral place and allow her to get it all out. Eventually she will realize that mommy isn't going to give in and get her candy so it's not worth the tantrum....or at least that's my hope because typically her tantrums are about something very minor. When she has them at home then I take her up to her room, sit her on the bed and I sit on the floor and let her get it out. Again, it's about a 45 minutes thing and once she's done she will say she's sorry, gives me a hug and tells me she loves me. Sounds fun right?!
Hmm what else is so much fun with kids? I personally LOVE when the kids are fighting over one particular toy (that we probably have 2 of but they don't want to look for the other one) and they don't yell at each other....the scream at the top of their lungs! It's a very high pitched, blood curdling scream that severs my nerves the second it starts. Oh, or the refusal to eat because even though they said they wanted chicken for dinner what they really meant was they wanted spaghetti.
Motherhood is down right hard! I wouldn't trade it for the world but that doesn't mean that at the end of each day my brain, nerves and body are maxed out. When the kids go to bed and the house is quiet...that's the best feeling in the world. Again, I absolutely LOVE my kids and love my life but as a stay at home mom....peace and quiet are a rare thing so I enjoy every second that I get! This doesn't make me a bad mom either...it makes me a better mom because I take what quiet time I can get because I have started to expect these things from the kids. I know that typically I will get one tantrum a day from the oldest and now I get a "no" from my youngest about every 5 minutes. The kids are exploring their own thoughts, opinions and emotions. I won't stop them from exploring them but it does take it's toll on me! Eventually (not to long from now) they will be older and I will have teenagers to deal with. I think I will take now over teenage girls LOL!
Anyone know a good spa in Belgium?! ;-)
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